Boundaries are so hard to implement let alone determine. Everyone struggles to know what healthy boundaries are in their relationships, at work, physical health, finances, and, oddly enough, time. It seems that more and more people are losing the art of relaxation and taking time for themselves. Though our personal devices, like the iPhone, provides some level of diversion, whether that's games or Facebook, they often keep us tethered, accessible and, therefore, busy. Even more, often we are not actually "present" where we are and may miss out on the here and now.
Someone shared with me recently that he felt guilty when taking vacations or even days off. Raised with the value of hard work, it seemed selfish and lazy to enjoy down time. But the simple truth is people who rest and allow themselves time to recharge burn out less frequently and work with more energy and contentment. The bodies of those who take for granted down time will ultimately force time off. This burnout may look like a level of stress that is unbearable, or physical illness. Be kind to your body and mind and allow it the time to rejuvenate before getting there.
So here is a good rule of thumb for down time:
1 hour a day
1 day a week
1 week every 15 weeks (or so)
I'd suggest that in this time of R+R that you "unplug". Those who remain glued to their screens seem to miss out on the entire time. All of a sudden their vacation is over before they were able to enjoy it. Though down time is meant for relaxation, you will get more out of it if you are able to remain present. Implementing and protecting time off can be a challenge, but it is definitely worth it.
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